I turn 22 in a few days, (Aug 19th), and I’m so excited to have the day dedicated to me! I like to think that I’ve learned a fair amount during my 22 laps around the sun – so I felt like I should share some of my wisdom with y’all.
1. Say “I love you” often
I grew up saying “I love you” a lot, my dad used to tell me that when he was growing up his family rarely expressed love to each other and he always tried to make sure he didn’t raise his family that way.
I tell people I love them, I tell them I appreciate them and there’s nothing wrong with saying it a lot. I promise it won’t lose its meaning.
2. You’re capable of doing whatever you want
It can be super scary and discouraging at times, but anything you want to do – you can. Whether it’s starting a lifestyle blog (meeeee) or learning a new language. It can be intimidating, but if you really want to do it – do it! Take a class, ask for help, build that website, just do it! (Sorry Nike)
3. Family doesn’t have to be blood
You can choose your own family. Some of the best people in my life/family aren’t blood related to me. I haven’t talked to my mom in literally over half a decade, but my boyfriend’s family took me in as one of their own, and I’m so thankful for them.
4. There is nothing wrong with being “Basic”
Let people like what they like! If someone likes 2011 One Direction, good for them! If they like pumpkin spice lattes, coolio! Where UGGS if you want, where Adidas track pants. It doesn’t matter to anyone but you, do what you want to do to be happy!
But like forreal, I went through a huge 1D phase and I used to be super embarrassed by it, but you’ll now see me rocking out to What Makes You Beautiful with no shame.
(but don’t be mean plz and thank you)
5. There’s nothing wrong with the word “Fat”
There’s nothing wrong with the word Fat. There’s nothing wrong with being fat.
It doesn’t diminish anyone’s worth, it doesn’t justify anyone treating you anything less than a person.
6. You can literally Youtube anything for instructions
Thanks Chad Hurley, Steve Chen, and Jawed Karim.
I have learned so many pointless things and I’m pretty thankful for it.
7. Bake cookies and bread often
One, because they taste delicious and you can’t be sad while baking cookies.
But also two, it makes your place smell AMAZING! The rest of your night, you will be lounging in a sweet cloud of baked goods.
8. Hair grows back
I grew up with coloured hair, there’s a photo of me somewhere sitting on Santa’s lap with like blue/purple hair when I was idk I think 4? And since then I’ve had more colours in my hair that I forgot what my natural hair colour was! I’ve always loved dying my hair, and there was a brief stint that I actually went to hair school (But I’m a beauty school drop out 😉 )
The thing is, hair grows back – after being dyed, bad hair cuts and stress breakdowns while cutting bangs (ahahah don’t even ask)
9. There’s no such thing as moving too fast or too slow
It might take you 7 years to graduate college or you could be married by 19, life is different for everyone. Success doesn’t diminish with time.
For example, Jay and I moved in with each other after a month of dating and we’ve been living together for a couple years now. At the time, people thought we were moving too fast but in reality moving in together was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
10. It’s okay to say no sometimes
For the longest time, I thought I had to say yes to any invitation that came my way. It was tiring (especially as an introvert), there were just some days that I want to stay home and watch Brooklyn 99 on repeat.
It wasn’t until recently that I have learned that it’s okay to be like “Dude, I’d love to but I can’t hang that day – I’m super tired. But let’s plan something for [this day]”
11. Learn another language
I unfortunately only know one language, but I’ve been slowly trying to learn French.
Being bilingual is sick af, makes you look super cool as well, but there’s so many benefits to it as well!
12. Don’t be one of those people who are notoriously late
Notoriously late people have to be one of my biggest pet peeve, the complete disregard for other people is beyond me. Don’t get me wrong, being late once or twice is fine – but don’t always be late. Also you can’t get written up at work if you’re early… 💁🏼
When I was 13, my dad told me “If you’re 15 minutes early, you’re late” and I’ve lived with that for almost 9 years now.
13. It’s okay not to know what you want to do
When I was little, I thought 20 year olds were “real” adults (ahaha boy was I wrong). But growing up with that assumption I felt like there was something wrong with me because I didn’t know who I wanted to be or what I wanted to do – and I was really hard on myself for it.
My dad sat me down and told me that he didn’t know what his dream job was until he was into his 40’s, which made me feel SO MUCH BETTER.
14. Hot Chocolate powder doesn’t taste good on popcorn
Pretty self explanatory
15. You don’t need alcohol or drugs to have fun
I went through a pretty decent partying phase when I was younger, and I hated who I was turning into. I hated the feeling the next day, I hated feeling out of control – so I made the decision to cut back.
I’ve been drunk less than 5 times in the last 2 years, the most I have is a glass of wine and I’m so okay with it. I know what my limit is and what I’m comfortable with. I love lowkey nights.n
16. Don’t put dish soap in the dishwasher
Unless you want to make a slip ‘n slide in your kitchen.
17. It’s okay to mess up
I mess up ALL THE TIME. And it sucks in the moment and I get in my head a little bit, but overall you just gotta get over it. Life always goes on, all you gotta do is apologize if need be and fix anything that’s broken.
18. Life is too short to fake an orgasm
If a boy (or girl) doesn’t make you orgasm, don’t lie. Coach them if need be.
19. Try out new restaurants
Don’t get me wrong, I love going to the lil pub by my home because it’s close and convenient and I like their food.
Every year, Jay and I make a new years resolution to try at least 30 new restaurants / coffee shops a year. Not only does it allow you to try new things, but it also means you get to explore more of your city!
20. Boxers are the comfiest lounge wear
Invest in good comfy boxers and an oversized tshirt, thank me later.
21. Date someone who you can call your Best Friend
Jay and I are constantly laughing and joking around and having fun. I think that’s one of the reasons we make such a good couple is because when anything happens in my day, he’s the person I turn to. When we’re going grocery shopping, we dance in the aisles.
It makes relationships 100% better when they’re also your best friend.
22. Animal cuddles are a great way to end your day
Getting Bella Blue is one of the best decisions of my life.